Lindsey Lou
05-19-04, 09:43 PM
People shouldn’t get divorced. Try to work things out. It really harms children. Little children believe they’ve caused their parents divorce. As the children get older, the more abusive that they will become. Divorces have been happening for many years. In 1940, there were around 250,000 divorces. In 2004, there are around 1,200,000. That’s a lot of divorces. I think that if one of the parents is very abusive and will not be there for the child, and then the divorce is okay. But if they’re just getting a divorce because they do not want to be married anymore, then I do not think that it is okay.
People who are for divorce on children is that psychologists believe children have harder times adjusting to divorce when they are at a younger age. At a young age, children will begin bed wetting all over again. At age 10, they might hang out with the wrong crowd. It is stated:
The concept of being alone in the world is very frightening for any child. (Parker, 1).
Make arrangements for the children to see both parents on a regular basis. Both parents in the picture are always a great part. The children will love seeing mommy and daddy on separate occasions. For one thing, don’t try to turn your children against their other parent. You shouldn’t get them to hate their other parent. That is just wrong. It is stated:
Any parent who tried to turn their children against the other parent creates an absolutely impossible for that child. (Parker, 1)
A child going to therapy for their parents divorce is just wrong. They shouldn’t have to be put through with this. You should sit down with your child and talk to them. Maybe do this as a nightly thing. Take notes on what they told you. Research what they are trying to ask you. Try reasoning with them. Maybe if they see that you’re understanding and caring about them, they’ll stop doing what is wrong, and start doing the right thing. People think that all children will become harmful if their parents get divorced. That could be true. It is stated:
Parents should agree on the custody and childcare arrangements so the children will not grow up experiencing conflicts between his/her parents. (University of New Hampshire, 1)
For one thing, do not encourage your children to get you and their other parent back together. It will actually hurt them. If the parents do not love each other anymore, then they should not remain married. It will really hurt their children. It will be painful for all the children. But eventually they will understand why mom and dad got divorced. Be caring of all the children involved in the divorce.
“Be clear with the children about the finality of the divorce, and discourage their attempts to get you back together (University of New Hampshire, 1).â€Â
One parent in the picture is always very had for a child to overcome. They’ll have a very hard time adjusting. If they live with their mom, like most of the time, they’ll tend to be more afraid that their mom will leave them next. [arse]ure the children that you will always be there for them, even if you do have to work two jobs to keep the children healthy, fed, and clothed.
“Many women make enough money to barely survive independently. More bail out of marriages that make them miserable (Mahony, 1).â€Â
Yes, it is proven that children will become trouble some if their parents are divorced. Infants really do not understand what is going on. They might after awhile catch on that one of the parents will not be around that much anymore, and will become really moody. At a preschool age, a child thinks that if they’d done what their parents had wanted them to do daddy (or mommy) would not have left. At a school age, the children might experience grief and embarr[arse]ment. They might even become angry at one of the parents, or both. Teenagers will feel angry, fear and the major one, loneliness, depression and guilt. Teenagers might feel this way because they have gotten to know both their parents, and love them dearly.
All children of divorced parents have a fear of being alone, no matter what age they are. They’re very afraid that they’ll loose all contact with both parents. Try talking with them. Tell them that you will always be there for them. Explain the situation to them. If they’re still afraid, let them know that they can contact either parent at anytime, day or night. If both parents are busy, re[arse]ure them that they are okay to give grandma and grandpa a phone call and talk to them. Or they can always call up one of their aunts or uncles, or even their parents friends will be willing to listen to what they want to say.
I say that parents shouldn’t get divorced because it will really harm their children. The only way that I say that a divorce is okay is if one parent is cheating on the other parent, becomes abusive, or both parents are fighting a lot. Make sure that the children are able to see the other parent if the reason is that the other parent is cheating or fighting. If one parent is abusive, try and make sure that the children do not see that parent because if they see that one parent gets to hurt someone, they’ll think that it is okay to be hurting other people. I do not think that is what you want to happen to your children.
If one of the parents is no longer in the picture, help the children find their other parent. It’ll mean the world to the children to be able to see mom or dad again. But if you cannot find the other parent, and you are remarried, [arse]ure them that their stepmother or stepfather will always be there for them. Make sure that the children are willing to get to know their stepparents. If there are stepchildren in the picture, have them spend a lot of time with them as well. That way, there will not be arguing in your house.
I think that it is just wrong that children have to do things for themselves at such a young age. They shouldn’t be washing the dishes at the young age of four, doing the laundry at 10, or things to that occasion. They should be able to be children, and enjoy their childhood while they can. If you have boys, sign them up for baseball. I know my brothers enjoyed baseball. If they’re girls, sign them up for soccer, dance, or gymnastics. Those will all be fun.
If one parent is very abusive and hurting you or your children, then I say that the divorce is okay. An abusive parent will sometimes lead to a very abusive adult later on in life. If the parent that is abuse is hitting a child, and the child is crying major, call the police. Do not think twice about it. Have the parent arrested for beating up one of your children. If one of your other children ask why mommy or daddy is being taken away, say that it is for the best. Say that it is for their own good.
In conclusion, I am on both sides of a divorce. But I do not agree that a child should be raising him/herself. A parent should always be there, no matter what. Being from a family where my parents have always been married, I’m glad that I’m from that family. I wonder what life would be like if I was like one of those children who had a divorced family. I’m glad that I’m just happy. Divorce can sometimes be a great thing. Other times it can harm a child. I surely wouldn’t want to be raising myself. If a child is raising themselves and their brother and sisters, get help. Call your parents, friends, or other relatives and ask them if they’d be willing to watch your children while you are away at work. So in the end, divorce can really harm children.
People who are for divorce on children is that psychologists believe children have harder times adjusting to divorce when they are at a younger age. At a young age, children will begin bed wetting all over again. At age 10, they might hang out with the wrong crowd. It is stated:
The concept of being alone in the world is very frightening for any child. (Parker, 1).
Make arrangements for the children to see both parents on a regular basis. Both parents in the picture are always a great part. The children will love seeing mommy and daddy on separate occasions. For one thing, don’t try to turn your children against their other parent. You shouldn’t get them to hate their other parent. That is just wrong. It is stated:
Any parent who tried to turn their children against the other parent creates an absolutely impossible for that child. (Parker, 1)
A child going to therapy for their parents divorce is just wrong. They shouldn’t have to be put through with this. You should sit down with your child and talk to them. Maybe do this as a nightly thing. Take notes on what they told you. Research what they are trying to ask you. Try reasoning with them. Maybe if they see that you’re understanding and caring about them, they’ll stop doing what is wrong, and start doing the right thing. People think that all children will become harmful if their parents get divorced. That could be true. It is stated:
Parents should agree on the custody and childcare arrangements so the children will not grow up experiencing conflicts between his/her parents. (University of New Hampshire, 1)
For one thing, do not encourage your children to get you and their other parent back together. It will actually hurt them. If the parents do not love each other anymore, then they should not remain married. It will really hurt their children. It will be painful for all the children. But eventually they will understand why mom and dad got divorced. Be caring of all the children involved in the divorce.
“Be clear with the children about the finality of the divorce, and discourage their attempts to get you back together (University of New Hampshire, 1).â€Â
One parent in the picture is always very had for a child to overcome. They’ll have a very hard time adjusting. If they live with their mom, like most of the time, they’ll tend to be more afraid that their mom will leave them next. [arse]ure the children that you will always be there for them, even if you do have to work two jobs to keep the children healthy, fed, and clothed.
“Many women make enough money to barely survive independently. More bail out of marriages that make them miserable (Mahony, 1).â€Â
Yes, it is proven that children will become trouble some if their parents are divorced. Infants really do not understand what is going on. They might after awhile catch on that one of the parents will not be around that much anymore, and will become really moody. At a preschool age, a child thinks that if they’d done what their parents had wanted them to do daddy (or mommy) would not have left. At a school age, the children might experience grief and embarr[arse]ment. They might even become angry at one of the parents, or both. Teenagers will feel angry, fear and the major one, loneliness, depression and guilt. Teenagers might feel this way because they have gotten to know both their parents, and love them dearly.
All children of divorced parents have a fear of being alone, no matter what age they are. They’re very afraid that they’ll loose all contact with both parents. Try talking with them. Tell them that you will always be there for them. Explain the situation to them. If they’re still afraid, let them know that they can contact either parent at anytime, day or night. If both parents are busy, re[arse]ure them that they are okay to give grandma and grandpa a phone call and talk to them. Or they can always call up one of their aunts or uncles, or even their parents friends will be willing to listen to what they want to say.
I say that parents shouldn’t get divorced because it will really harm their children. The only way that I say that a divorce is okay is if one parent is cheating on the other parent, becomes abusive, or both parents are fighting a lot. Make sure that the children are able to see the other parent if the reason is that the other parent is cheating or fighting. If one parent is abusive, try and make sure that the children do not see that parent because if they see that one parent gets to hurt someone, they’ll think that it is okay to be hurting other people. I do not think that is what you want to happen to your children.
If one of the parents is no longer in the picture, help the children find their other parent. It’ll mean the world to the children to be able to see mom or dad again. But if you cannot find the other parent, and you are remarried, [arse]ure them that their stepmother or stepfather will always be there for them. Make sure that the children are willing to get to know their stepparents. If there are stepchildren in the picture, have them spend a lot of time with them as well. That way, there will not be arguing in your house.
I think that it is just wrong that children have to do things for themselves at such a young age. They shouldn’t be washing the dishes at the young age of four, doing the laundry at 10, or things to that occasion. They should be able to be children, and enjoy their childhood while they can. If you have boys, sign them up for baseball. I know my brothers enjoyed baseball. If they’re girls, sign them up for soccer, dance, or gymnastics. Those will all be fun.
If one parent is very abusive and hurting you or your children, then I say that the divorce is okay. An abusive parent will sometimes lead to a very abusive adult later on in life. If the parent that is abuse is hitting a child, and the child is crying major, call the police. Do not think twice about it. Have the parent arrested for beating up one of your children. If one of your other children ask why mommy or daddy is being taken away, say that it is for the best. Say that it is for their own good.
In conclusion, I am on both sides of a divorce. But I do not agree that a child should be raising him/herself. A parent should always be there, no matter what. Being from a family where my parents have always been married, I’m glad that I’m from that family. I wonder what life would be like if I was like one of those children who had a divorced family. I’m glad that I’m just happy. Divorce can sometimes be a great thing. Other times it can harm a child. I surely wouldn’t want to be raising myself. If a child is raising themselves and their brother and sisters, get help. Call your parents, friends, or other relatives and ask them if they’d be willing to watch your children while you are away at work. So in the end, divorce can really harm children.